So, you’ve just moved to Lagos — welcome to the city that never chills.
Whether you’re here for school, a job, or just a fresh start, one of the first things you’ll notice is how fast-paced everything is. From the traffic to the hustle, Lagos moves quickly — and if you’re not careful, you could start feeling lost in the crowd.
But the good news? Making friends in Lagos is not as hard as it seems. You just need to know where to look (and what to say). Let’s break it down.
1. Be Open to Conversations — Anywhere, Anytime
In Lagos, small talk is a love language. Whether you’re in a Bolt, at the salon, in line at the bank, or buying puff-puff from a roadside vendor, someone is definitely going to gist with you. Don’t shut it down!
Start with a smile. Throw in a “how far?” or “you dey here since?” and see how the conversation flows. Lagosians are naturally chatty — once you open up, you’re halfway to making a new friend.
2. Join Communities Based on Your Interests
Love books? Try a book club. Into fitness? Check out a local gym or join a running group. Obsessed with food? There are food tours, brunch meetups, and supper clubs waiting for you.
There are so many community groups across the city — both online and offline — where you can meet people who share your vibe. Check out:
- Eventbrite for local events
- Meetup and Telegram groups
- Instagram pages like @experiencelagos or @livelifelagos
- Even Twitter Spaces — Lagosians love those!
3. Attend Events — Even If You Go Alone
In Lagos, there’s always something happening: art exhibitions, live music shows, tech meetups, open mics, beach hangouts, you name it. The key is to show up.
You don’t have to wait for a plus one. Go alone and challenge yourself to talk to just one person. Compliment their outfit, ask if the seat next to them is taken, or just say, “Is this your first time here too?” Trust me, the most random conversations often lead to the best friendships.
4. Make the First Move (Yes, Really)
This city is full of cool people — but everyone’s busy. If you click with someone, follow up! Send them a message, invite them out for drinks, or just say, “Hey, I had fun chatting yesterday, let’s hang out again.”
Don’t wait for the “perfect time.” People appreciate the effort — especially in a city where everyone’s trying to find their tribe too.
5. Stay Consistent — Friendships Take Time
You won’t become besties with everyone overnight, and that’s okay. Just keep showing up and being intentional. Follow up, check in, and be genuinely interested in people.
And when people invite you out — go! Even if you don’t know everyone there, say yes. That’s how your circle starts to grow.
Bonus: Where to Meet People in Lagos (Fast!)
- Co-working spaces – Try places like Café One, Workstation, or Herelagos
- Church groups or fellowships – Many are open to young professionals
- Dance or fitness classes – Afrobeat dance, yoga, boxing, and more
- Volunteering – Join a cause you love and meet people doing good
- Instagram Lives & Events – Many influencers and brands host Lagos-based meetups
Conclusion
Making friends in Lagos might feel overwhelming at first, but the city is filled with warm, funny, and adventurous people who are just like you — looking to connect.
Be bold. Be curious. Say hello. The rest will fall into place.
And when in doubt? Just ask, “Where’s the suya spot around here?” Works every time